Modesty Reminder and Shabby Apple Giveaway!

Spring is here and I’d like to make a friendly modesty reminder.

Even though the weather is getting warmer let’s all make an effort to respect ourselves and our brothers in Christ by dressing modestly.

Your body is a beautiful thing made by our Creative God.  It’s nothing to be ashamed of but it is something precious that should be protected and saved.

Our highest call as Christians is to love God and Love others.  Let’s strive to do that by being careful to dress modestly.

“Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”  -Matthew 22

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I’m also really excited that I have the opportunity to give away a $15 Gift Certificate to Shabby Apple!

For a long time I have admired their pretty, modest, vintage inspired dresses and jewelry.  I’m a little bit jealous of whoever wins this great prize!  :-)

Follow this link to take a look at their line of modest clothing.

Enter to win below!  Giveaway ends Monday, April 8th.

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How to Get 5 Outfits for $19

I recently had a question form a reader:

“I must ask because it is so hard to find cute, modest clothes, but where do you get your clothes?”


I am a huge fan of cute, modest, feminine clothing!  Clothes shopping, outfit coordinating, and discovering flattering styles is one of my favorite hobbies.  I’m always on the look out for outfit inspiration and I love to try new styles but as you can imagine having a hobby like this could get pretty expensive very quickly.

To appease my style hunger without breaking the bank I found myself falling in love with thrift stores and consignment shops!

I can find top brands that I love for next to nothing.  Plus in my experience, for whatever reason, it’s MUCH easier to find modest, feminine clothing second hand.

Here are a few treasures I picked up.  5 outfits for under $20!

$3 Dress

$4 Skirt

$3 Dress

$4 Dress

$1 Blouse, $4 Skirt

What do you think?  How do you feel about thrift store shopping?  Does this post inspire you to give it a try?




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FREE mini Modesty ebook, Fashion Giveaway and More {Birthday Party Day 2}

It’s day 2 of the Stay-At-Home Daughter Birthday Party and we’re having a modest fashion show linkup!  Submit your old or new blog posts on modesty, fashion, beauty, accessory making tutorials, makeup & hair tutorials, or a post with pictures of your favorite modest outfit(s)!

And guess what!  We’ve got party favors today!  I’m giving away a FREE mini ebook called “50 Trendy Tips For Dressing Modestly” to everyone who “likes” Stay-At-Home Daughter on Facebook!  


 “50 Trendy Tips For Dressing Modestly” is a short ebook with many tips and solutions for the Christian woman who desires to please the Lord in the way she dresses.  Modesty doesn’t have mean frumpy.  I’m a firm believer in beautiful modesty!

This mini ebook will only be available for FREE for a short time.  Click here to “like” Stay-At-Home Daughter on Facebook After you’ve hit the “like button” (or if you have in the past) go to the Stay-At-Home Daughter Facebook wall and click on the tab on the left that says “Only Likers” to download your FREE copy!

It’s completely free and there are plenty to go around so please share about the ebook with your friends on Facebook and Twitter!

Now for some fun fashion and beauty giveaways!

Caroline, from The Modest Mom, is generously giving away any 1 of these great modesty shells to 1 winner.  Take a closer look here and check out the rest of her website!  Plus if you use this code at the check out  “10offmodestmom” you can receive 10% off any purchase of The Modest Mom products!!!


Chelsea, from 365 Devotions For Unmarried Christian Women, would like to give away 2 $15 gift certificates to Lilla Rose Flexiclips!  Chelsea has a wonderful blog and you can stay updated by following her on Facebook!

Lilla Rose offers beautiful hair products that will help you style your hair in just minutes! They work in all different hair types, from thin smooth hair to thick curly hair, there is a size and style for everyone!

The flexi clip is a one piece clip that works in all different hair textures and lengths. It comes in mini to mega sizes!

Lilla Rose also sells O-Rings, Hair Bands, Hair Sticks, Bobby Pins, and You Pins. You can see all of the products here.

To watch the sizing and styling video go here.”


Next we have a beautiful vintage style necklace from Shabby Apple!  Shabby Apple jewelry and dresses are so pretty and you can stay updated on sales and new items by “liking” them on Facebook!

For the next 30 days you can use this code “stayathome10off” and receive 10% off Shabby Apple products!  Enter to win this gorgeous necklace called “ Key to Wonderland”! Don’t you just love that name?  (The winner must have a US shipping address and  there will be no exchanges for the winning piece of jewelry).

Here’s how to enter the giveaways!

(1 Mandatory Entry) Leave a comment with your favorite tip for modesty!

Extra Entries (leave a separate comment for each entry telling what you did):

  • Follow Stay-At-Home Daughter on Twitter = 1 entry
  • Subscribe to Stay-At-Home Daughter’s email updates = 1 entry
  • Visit  365 Devotions For Unmarried Christian Women =1 entry
  • Share about this giveaway on Facebook = 3 entries (leave 3 separate comments for this)
*Giveaways end Feb. 17th

Now let me start off the fashion show!  Here are a few of my favorite modest outfits and I’ve added some of my modest fashion posts to the link up.

Don’t for get to linkup your old or new blog posts on modesty, fashion, beauty, accessory or hair tutorials or a post with pictures of your favorite modest outfit(s)!  If it has to do with modest fashion link it up!

I hope everyone has a good time and checking out the fun modest fashion posts in the linkup!

Don’t forget to “like” Stay-At-Home Daughter on Facebook for your free mini ebook and enter the giveaway!




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No-Sew Skirt Extender

Have you ever found a cute skirt or dress that was just a few inches too short?  Or maybe you’ve had the unfortunate experience of shrinking your favorite dress in the wash (been there done that).

I’ve found a great solution to add on the few extra inches.  A skirt extender!  Turn a simple half slip into a must have accessory.

Here’s What You’ll Need:

  • 1 half slip
  • Lace or eyelet of your choice (enough to go around the bottom of the slip plus a little extra)
  • Fabric bonding adhesive Velcro



Lay your skirt out flat.  Take the Velcro pieces and put the sets together so the adhesive sides are out. Strategically place the adhesive Velcro around the bottom edge of the skit.  Using Velcro will allow you to take off the extender when you don’t need it.  I would recommend having the fuzzy side of the Velcro on the slip so when you are not using the extender the rough side of the Velcro won’t catch on the inside of your skirt.

Next take the lace or eyelet and lay it on top of the Velcro.  Press hard on the Velcro so the adhesive sticks well to the fabrics.  I would recommend having the end pieces of the lace meet and overlap at the back of the slip.  If the type of lace or eyelet you are using tends to fray at the ends try putting a little Elmer’s glue on the edge to keep it from unraveling.

Now try your new skirt extender on with your favorite skirt!  A skirt extender is the perfect thing to add a little flair and a great modesty solution for your skirts and dresses.

Have you ever used a skirt extender before?  Do you have any other tips for making a dress or skirt more modest?


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Modesty Survey

I discovered a very interesting and helpful survey on modesty. The Rebelution has created a survey asking guys of all ages to answer specific questions about modesty. The survey includes topics such as pants, swimsuits, shoes, jewelry, posture, movement and much more.

I found this resource very helpful for understanding how many men feel about specific clothing items. You can take a look at the survey here.

Have you read Matt Boyer’s guest post “Modesty: From a Guy’s View”?  This is a very beneficial post from a Christian guy’s perspective on modesty.

Also see my posts “Modesty: From the Heart” and “Six Simple Modesty Solutions.”


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Modesty: Don’t forget to…

Here are a couple of often forgotten tips for modesty.

Don’t forget to…

Sit Modestly
When you sit your clothes lay on you totally different from when you are standing. That skirt that was completely modest when you were standing can creep up another couple of inches when you sit down. It’s a good idea to make a habit of properly adjusting your skirt every time you sit down. Check to make sure it’s still appropriately covering your legs not only from the top where you can see but also from the front where others can see.

Cross Modesty
Crossing your legs is a very feminine posture however it must be done right or it shouldn’t be done at all. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve seen with ordinarily modest skirts turned immodest when they carelessly crossed their legs. The simple solution to this is to cross concisely and carefully remembering to tuck in and adjust your skirt as you go so others cannot see to far up and in.

Bend Modesty
Your blouse is perfectly modest when you look in the mirror but be sure to do the “Bend Test”. When you lean forward is there anything being exposed that shouldn’t be? If so make sure you place you hand over your neckline before you bend. It’s much easier to remember if you just make a habit of this no matter what shirt you are wearing.

Be Active Modestly
Before you go to an event or activity think about what you are going to be wearing to make sure you are dressing appropriately. For example you wouldn’t wear the same outfit to a concert where you will be sitting as you would to a sports activity where you will be moving around a lot. Are you going to be climbing a latter to hang party decorations? Sitting on the floor to play with children? Riding a bike or working in the yard? All of these activities are great but we must make sure our attire is well suited for each of these activities.

Have I forgotten anything that you would like to add? Leave me a comment with your tips!

Guest Post: Modesty: From A Guy’s View      Modesty: From the Heart

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Six Simple Modesty Solutions

Ok, so I think we can all agree that modesty is important but in this day and age modest clothing choices are hard to come by. Almost everything I see in stores is too skimpy or revealing.

So what’s a girl to do? Wear a shapeless potato sack? I think not. We serve a God who loves creativity and beauty. Just look around you at the beautiful, artistic qualities of nature. I think being attractive and creative in our clothing and modesty is one way we can reflect these traits.

Below is by no means an exhaustive list but here are a few ways I’ve found to make my clothing creatively modest.

Camisoles & Half Cammies
These are by far my favorite! I use them all the time. Wearing a camisole or half cammi under a low cut top or dress can raise the neckline and make your top more modest.

Tank-tops can serve two purposes. A good tank-top can widen or add straps to an otherwise inadequate blouse or provide more underarm coverage.

Many times I wear a shrug or sweater over formal dresses if they do not cover enough on top. There are lots of cute options out there that can even add to the elegance.

Jeans or other pants can sometimes be worn under a short casual dress or tunic. This can make the dress modest while still remaining stylish.

One time I had a dress that shrunk in the wash. It was just a little too short after that. I loved the dress so much but couldn’t wear it that way. So I found some matching material and added an inch or two to the bottom of the dress. You couldn’t even tell the add-on wasn’t originally suppose to be there.

I really like vests. I’ve got a cute jean one and I’ve found it works well to wear it over a shirt that is otherwise a little too tight.

Scarves {Bonus!}
I’ve seen lots of big, beautiful scarves out lately. These are great to drape or tie around your shoulders for extra coverage.

Please remember, sometimes after using all the creativity you can muster you wont be able to make an outfit modest. There have been many times that I’ve shown my father a dress or top, having done my best to revamp it, and he has just had to say, no. Yes, it can be very disappointing when I love the dress or top so much but Daddy can see things that I can’t and I’m thankful for his protection.

Do you have any more ideas to add to this list?  I’d love to hear about some of your modest remakes!

Other Posts on Modesty:
Guest Post: Modesty: From A Guy’s View
Modesty: From the Heart



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What Guys Think About Modesty Video

This video was brought to my attention by A Wise Women Builds Her Home. I felt it was helpful and went right along with our study on modesty. The video only lasts a few minutes. I’d encourage you to take a look. 

(Please excuse the short music clip at the beginning… not my preference.)


Other Posts on Modesty:

Guest Post: Modesty: From A Guy’s View

Modesty: From the Heart

Guest Post: Modesty: From A Guy’s View

I’ve got a great post for you today. I asked a good friend of mine, Matt Boyer, to answer a few questions for us on the topic of modesty and he graciously consented to do so. Modesty is often addressed by women but this is a rare chance to hear a guy’s view on the issue. Matt does a wonderful job answering these questions while showing both a guy’s perspective and a biblical perspective! Enjoy!

Question #1: Do you think modesty is something women should be concerned about, or is it not really very important to consider when choosing clothing?

Answer: Indeed, it is. In fact, scripture specifically commands it: I Timothy 2:8-10, “I desire….that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works”. Considering that these instructions were given in the context of a local church, it would seem that the implication is that women should dress and behave in such a way as to avoid causing distraction when the Body gathers. Distraction could come from either (1) indecent clothing that would catch the attention of men and feed sexual desires (hence the reference to propriety), or (2) from very costly attire that could incite other, less prosperous women to jealousy (thus, moderation). Conversely, scripture has nothing positive to say about women who dress immodestly (see Prov. 7:10 which, while it addresses far more than the attire of the woman it refers to, does include her dress as one of the ways she entices men).

Question # 2: Do you believe modesty is only about clothing, or is it also a heart/attitude issue?

Answer: Modesty in attire and behavior is an outworking of a proper attitude of submission toward God and one’s husband (I Peter 3:1-6). It should not be seen as a way of earning favor with God or obtaining spiritual maturity; rather it should be a result of the Holy Spirit applying God’s Word to the heart of the believer. The more we learn of God, and the more mature we become, the more we will desire to obey his commands.

Question # 3: Do you believe modesty is only at the discretion of the woman wearing the clothing, or is it also the role/responsibility of another to ensure a woman is dressing modestly? If so, who has this main role/responsibility, and why?

Answer: I believe that the husband has the scriptural authority/responsibility to lead his wife in submitting to scripture in every area. Additionally, a woman who dresses immodestly exposes herself to greater danger from men around her who lack self-control, and it is clearly the husband’s job to protect her from harm. Therefore I think he should have enough concern for her spiritual and physical well-being that he would point out if something in her wardrobe is inappropriate. That is not to say that husbands have to choose their wife’s entire wardrobe (as this could result in major fashion problems), only that they should care enough to be involved-and their wives should heed their counsel.

As to other counselors/authority figures (for single ladies), I’m not sure I could give you a chapter and verse to back this up but I would think it would be very wise to address any modesty-related questions to parents/siblings (particularly fathers and brothers, as they would know first-hand what attracts inappropriate attention from guys).

Question # 4: Do you feel it can be modest and feminine for a woman to wear pants provided they are not too tight?

Answer: Yes; in fact, sometimes it is more modest, considering that there are some very inadequate skirts out there. Also, there are some activities for which pants are better suited.

Question # 5: If a woman dresses modestly is it easier for men to keep their mind focused on the Lord when speaking with her?

Answer: Yes. A man’s passions and desires are, largely, visually driven and it is therefore much easier to keep our focus right when in the presence of a well-dressed young lady.

Let me say at this point that I do not blame men’s struggles with lust entirely, or even mostly, on women’s attire or behavior. If a man stumbles (or dives) into sin he bears the blame for his own actions/thoughts. One can not be tempted to do something that he has no desire to do, and we often find objects for our desires whether or not they present themselves. Sin ultimately begins in the depraved heart, something which no one other than God has the power to change. That having been said, however, women certainly have the choice of whether to be a help or a hindrance to us in this battle. You can be a great encouragement, or a stumbling block depending on how you choose to dress and conduct yourself. I, for one, would like to express my appreciation to those of you who are concerned enough about this issue to even be reading about it, and much more so to be considering it as you make everyday decisions concerning your attire and conduct.


Matt Boyer

Matt Boyer, son of Rick and Marilyn from The Learning Parent, is a young man with a noticeable passion for Christ. I met Matt at our local church where he ministers to the body in song, as an usher and Small Groups leader. Some of his interests range from music, reading, politics and working with his hands.

I’ve been blessed by his excellent insights on a variety of topics including the one above.

Thank you so much Matt, for your willingness to share your thoughts with us. We so appreciate it!



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Modesty: From the Heart

Over the next few weeks we are going to be discussing modesty. What better time to have this little reminder than now, since spring has officially sprung, and warmer weather is just around the corner.

The clothes you wear are a very important part of modesty; but I think it goes much deeper than your outer appearance. I believe modesty starts in the heart.

I think a women can be completely modest in regards to being covered properly but still have the attitude of immodesty. I think we often forget that modesty is not just about a list of rules on what not to wear (though rules surly aren’t all bad) but rather it is a life style and state of heart that should overflow into many areas of life. A woman can dress discreetly but her speech and body movements can still be seductive and vulgar. Rarely is a women’s movements and speech accidentally alluring. No, in most cases when we act this way it is because we have a heart problem, because deep down inside we are dwelling on the wrong thoughts and because we let those wrong thoughts turn into wrong desires and wrong desires into wrong actions.

To truly be modest we must change from the inside out not the outside in and a person cannot truly change on the inside without Jesus giving them the strength to do it. A person who does not have Jesus as Lord in their life may appear to change but never truly can. Jesus is the only one who can give us the power to overcome seductive desires and behavior. If you are a Christian God has already given you the means to conquers this area in your life.

Romans 8:36 “… we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

With that said these are the steps we need to take to change our seductive, feministic hearts to beautiful modesty:

#1  Recognize if there is a problem. You won’t change if you don’t see you are in error.

#2  I identify the wrong thoughts and desires. Do this by evaluating your heart against God’s Word.

#3  Pray for strength to overcome.  Ask God to help you. He wants you to succeed in this!

#4  Reject wrong thoughts/desires and replace them with good ones. When you are tempted to think wrongly memorize scripture, pray, read your Bible or just busy your mind on something else.

It will take time but when you have your attitude right your speech, actions and dress will follow.

Here is a brief description of what a modest woman should look like on the inside. You should be able to see how having these types of attitudes will effect you outer appearance too.

A lady should be adorned with…

All Purity not seductiveness

Noticeable Femininity not manliness

Sweet Submission not rebellion

Subtle Tastefulness not showiness

Christ-like Demeanor not worldliness

Supporting verses:

Ephesians 5:3 NASB “But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints”

Hebrews 13:17 NASB “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they keep watch over your souls as those who will give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with grief, for this would be unprofitable for you.”

1 Timothy 2:9-10 NASB “Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.”

Heart check.  Are these modesty traits prevalent in your life? I know often times I struggle with having a heart of modesty. This is a good reminder for me and maybe it can be helpful to you too.

Next week we are going to have a guest post about a guy’s view on modesty. I’m really excited about this and I think it will be very helpful to me and women of all ages. Be sure to check back!


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