As a single adult woman I have made the choice to be a stay-at-home daughter. I live with my family and flowing out of that I have chosen to submit to my parents; and more specifically my father’s authority. I have chosen to do this until the day I am given in marriage to my future husband, when I will willingly begin to submit to him.
Today I’ve just been considering what a wonderful gift I have in submitting to my father’s leadership and authority. So many wonderful things have come out of this arrangement and I feel truly blessed.
Today I’d like to take a moments to share with you just a few of the many benefits of submitting to your father’s authority while you remain a single woman.
Between creepy guys wanting your number, the subtle lies of our culture and our own deceptive emotions it’s a dangerous world out there girls!
One of the greatest benefits I’ve enjoyed as a stay-at-home daughter is the loving protection that my father has faithfully given me. He takes his job seriously when it comes to protecting me physically as well as my heart and purity. He’s older, wiser and because he’s a man he isn’t as easily swayed by passing emotions. My daddy can see through the lies the world (or certain young men) try to feed me much better than I can and he always steps up to protect me.
My father takes the financial responsibility in our home upon himself and by God’s grace he provides for our needs. I’ve been very grateful that as I have remained under his authority he has also continued to take the financial burden off of me. I know this is a sacrifice on his part but it has allowed me to minister and have more time to hone the homemaking skills that I will need in the future.
My father has also taken the brunt of the pressure of choosing my future husband off of my shoulders. He has actively looked to help provide a future mate for me.
Feminist try to tell us that it’s “freedom” to make ALL of our own decisions. I don’t call that freedom I call that PRESSURE. To me that’s a big responsibility I just don’t want.
As an adult, my parents do allow me to make a lot of my own choices; but I still trust and submit to my father’s leadership in such a way that I don’t have the weight of ALL of those big decisions on my shoulders. My father is a wise, experienced leader created for that job, I’m not. Submitting to his godly leadership practically and spiritually is a big blessing.
No one can ever be completely ready for marriage but good preparation is important. Living at home and under my father’s authority and observing my mother has allowed me to learn and practice, in a small way, the submission I desire to have towards my future husband. Studying my parent’s strong marriage has also helped me understand better what I need in a husband one day.
Being a stay-at-home daughter helps me have a good, close relationship with my entire family, including my father. Living in the same home as my father allows me to regularly see and learn what things are important to him. I would have missed out on so many opportunities to get to know my father if I did not choose to live under his loving authority!
Those were just a few reasons why being a stay-at-home daughter, submitted to my father’s authority is so attractive to me. I hope this post was an encouragement to you and maybe even brought up a few things to consider in regards to your years as a single woman.
Note: I understand that not every woman in my stage of life has the luxury of submitting to a godly, caring father. This post in not meant to push you into a cookie-cutter mold that your were not meant to be in but rather to encourage those who do have godly fathers to strongly consider embracing their authority. For those who, for whatever reason, cannot remain under their father’s leadership but wish to experience some of the wisdom and protection I mentioned in this post please don’t be discouraged! There are other good, God honoring options! If you are interested in hearing more about this, feel free to leave a comment or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
What are some of the benefits you’ve found while being a stay-at-home daughter under your father’s protection and authority? If an adult daughter wishes to have protection and guidance but is unable to receive it from her parents what other suggestions do you have for her?